I’ve noticed two kinds of people in this world.
There are people who look at someone else’s success and find inspiration. They use successful examples as a road map, and edit out the parts that don’t apply to their particular situations.
On the other hand, there are people who look for unfair advantages when they hear about someone’s success story. They like to point out connections, money, special talents and other reasons why the success was possible.
More importantly, they point out these advantages to invalidate the success story or serve as excuse why they couldn’t do the same thing.
Do you know the kind of people I’m talking about?
I guess you might call them naysayers.
I call bullshit.
Here’s the deal: every specific success story is different, and you can’t throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak.
Yes, successful people often have advantages. You too probably have certain advantages if you read the story the right way.
Looking for “gotcha” advantages in other people’s stories misses the point. When naysayers point to advantages in an attempt to invalidate someone else’s success, they conveniently ignore the real story.
Naysayers ignore the perseverance and incredible effort the hero in question had to bring to the table. They ignore the obstacles overcome on the journey. The naysayers ignore the self doubt and fear of failure the hero had to go through, just as you or I would have to.
There is so much to learn from every success story, just as there is so much to learn from every failure.
Whether you habitually attempt to discredit others’ successes might tell you something about your own chances of success.
Why should someone else’s advantages be your limitations?
Try focusing on what you do have instead of what you don’t. Look for the similarities in success stories instead of the unfair advantages.
The world has plenty of naysayers. If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you like hearing success stories. Thanks for being here.