One of the questions I hear most is “how do I find a mentor?”
Mentorship has always been a strange concept to me. For a long time I thought it was common for people to have “official” mentors, but eventually I realized I had never met anyone with an explicit mentor relationship.
Maybe your experience is different, maybe you know of a world where up-and-comers have designated relationships with experienced people who look out for them, but for most people it just doesn’t work that way.
So, instead of helping you find a mentor, I’m going to tell you why you should stop looking for one. Or, at least that you should stop looking for what you think a mentor is.
Why Do You Want a Mentor Anyway?
Just about everyone thinks about having a mentor at some point. Having someone experienced and well-connected to coach and guide you is easy to want.