The Quest to Be F*cking Awesome

  • March 3, 2011 by Corbett Barr
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Pardon my unusual use of a thinly veiled f-bomb in the title here for a moment. It will all make sense shortly.

I had one of those moments last week. You know, when something just clicks for the first time and you wonder why you couldn’t see things that way before.

It all started around the beginning of the year, when I wrote a post over at Think Traffic that would become the pervasive theme for that site. The post is called Write Epic Shit, and it was one of those posts I knew would be a big deal from the moment I wrote the headline.

That post started an avalanche of great things over there. I’ve been loving what I write and the community has been growing fast. Hurrah!

The momentum at Think Traffic made me take a step back and consider what I’m doing here, at this site.

Ever since the rebranding here, I’ve had this weird feeling that this site is about me, but not really about me, if that makes sense. Like a half finished transition. My name is up there, but I’m not really in here.

This feeling was all compounded by a 45 minute session with Danielle LaPorte I did a couple of weeks ago for Traffic School (my new course that launched this week).

Danielle is all about self realization and authenticity. She’s one of my favorite bloggers, hands down. Her stuff just oozes with in-your-face realism. Danielle is living her true self in front of the world in a way that frankly makes me jealous.

A conversation with Danielle can make you wonder who the hell you are, and why you aren’t 100% comfortable in your own skin in all circumstances, both public and private.

In the weeks since the Think Traffic breakthrough and my conversation with Danielle I’ve spent every Saturday and Sunday when I wasn’t “working” thinking about my business and this site and who I am. Yes, it’s been one of those heavy existential times.

Like I said, something hasn’t felt settled about this site for a while. The domain change was the first step, but I didn’t change much about the site’s topic or purpose from the old “Free Pursuits” days.

I’ve tried on lots of different “mission statements” for myself (my business actually) and this site recently. Here’s the conflict I’m dealing with: I’m building a business online, which partly involves this site, but at the same time, I decided that this site is “me” (or at least bears my name). I’m building a business but want to do it without being a douchebag.

Every new mission statement / tagline / branding direction I’ve contemplated has felt forced or manufactured. Nothing was a natural fit. (note to any bloggers considering running your site on your own domain name: it opens a whole can of worms that you might not be ready to deal with, especially if your blog is somehow related to your business)

Then, last week a bunch of things happened that led to that moment of convergence that I mentioned in the opening.

First, my friend Sean Ogle wrote a post about how he’s been stuggling with blogging lately, and questioning what his blog is about. He admitted that he’s not a professional blogger, nor is he trying to be.

His post made me realize two important things. First, I’m ridiculously fortunate to make a living online and to have had such success as a blogger, no matter how often I question WTF I’m doing here. Second, every blogger seems to have the same occasional existential crises I have now and then. Thanks Sean for putting things in perspective.

Then, my buddy Baker from Man vs. Debt shared a new project he’s working on (watch for it soon). This is the type of project that just fits Baker so well, and made me think damn, Baker is starting to live his personal legend (in The Alchemist sort of way) and it makes me want it even more for myself.

I’m finding more and more that my entire drive to operate online is really a quest to be myself as openly and truthfully as possible. Not necessarily to be my real self, but to be my best self, the one that you’ll like most and the one that can help you best.

Then, Johnny Truant (another awesome guy who rocks everything he does) shared a link on Twitter that BLEW MY MIND.

I want you to read this post, either now or after you finish this. It will rock your world. The post is from Julien Smith. It’s called (are you ready for this?) The Short and Sweet Guide to Being Fucking Awesome.

Read the post. You won’t regret it. Julien is a total badass and I can’t believe I wasn’t reading his stuff earlier.

The post slapped me across the face. Actually, it backhanded me, for a few reasons.

First, it made me realize how incredibly powerful and liberating a goal of being fucking awesome could be. If you’re awesome, nothing else really matters. (read the post, I’m not going to regurgitate what Julien already said about it so perfectly)

The next question is, how can you be awesome? The only way to be awesome is to be honest with yourself, which brings us to the next reason the post slapped me awake.

Second, as Julien pointed out, the litmus test for whether or not you’re being awesome is what your friends and people you’re close to think. Do the people who really know you and don’t believe the hype think you’re being awesome?

In my case, not totally. I’m definitely not even close to being as awesome here as I am in real life to the people who really know me. I’ve been awesome in some ways, but not fully as awesome as I should be here.

Third, Julien uses some strong language in the post and writes in a way that makes me read every last drop and then share it with everyone I know. That post (and a whole lot more of what he’s written lately) is truly epic shit, the kind of stuff I advocate for (but don’t always achieve at this site unless I’m really being myself).

At this blog, my blog, there have been glimpses of awesomeness in what I’ve written here, but those glimpses have been obscured by what I saw as competing goals: expressing yourself, enjoying blogging and trying to build a business, all through the same site.

I’ve thought about every potential way to solve those conflicting goals, from thinking about myself here as my “business self” instead of my real self, to making this site purely a creative outlet without any business goals.

Side note, I feel sorry for artists after going through this self examination, and now actually much better understand what my wife (an awesome painter) deals with. Being an artist is a constant struggle to earn a living while keeping it real.

Everything finally made sense today, because I was introduced to the new religion of being awesome. Thanks Julien.

For me to be fully awesome here, I’m going to have to be true to myself, maybe above all else. I think some of you will like that a lot, and others won’t. That’s OK. I may use swear words (like I do in real life) and talk about other things you’re not used to here. I may also get more creative and share things I wouldn’t have shared in the past.

Welcome to my website. My goal is to be fucking awesome.

To me, a big part of being awesome is also being useful, as in helping people out in some significant way. As the saying goes, the best way to succeed is to help others succeed.

And I don’t just want to be useful, I want to be insanely useful. I want to help you make breakthroughs and live awesomely yourself. If I always do that, earning a living won’t ever be a concern.

I’m committed to helping you live more awesomely by building a business online doing something you feel great about. My life has become 1,000% more awesome since I became blissfully self employed and now have the freedom to live where I want and do what I want.

I want you to have your version of the same situation.

My quest: to simultaneously be fucking awesome and insanely useful.

Damn, it feels great just to say that. I’ve been writing here for nearly two years and today everything seems much clearer than ever before.

What I create for you from now on will come under the following scrutiny:

  1. Am I being true to myself?
  2. Would people who really know me think I’m being awesome right now?
  3. Am I being insanely useful to people who read this?

Who knows, maybe I’ll have to change this site significantly again to achieve all of that. I don’t think that means a blank slate, but if that will help me be more awesome then so be it.

I might lose a bunch of subscribers over this post, mostly because I used the word “fuck” a few times. But guess what? In real life I say things like that. To pretend otherwise would simply be inauthentic, which would violate my rules about being awesome.

So to the people who decide to unsubscribe after reading this, it’s better this way. I have a feeling I’m headed in a direction you wouldn’t approve of. I’m on a quest to be awesome, and only people who also want to be awesome will understand.

Isn’t this is why I left the corporate world in the first place? To live a more awesome life and be my real self? Isn’t that what everyone really wants from life, to be awesome?

When I publish this post, I’ll be out being awesome on an overnight surf trip with friends. I can’t wait to read your comments when I get back.

If you like this post, I’d be grateful if you shared it.

If you don’t, I still think you’re awesome.

Written by . Corbett is cofounder of Fizzle, a place for creative entrepreneurs, writers, makers, coders and artists, all working to support themselves doing what they love independently on the Internet. Follow Corbett on on Twitter.


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NomadicNeill March 3, 2011 at 6:32 am

I truly believe being your authentic self is the best thing you can do with your life.

It should be the first thing anyone does before considering any other goal.

Of course it is a life long journey, but the sooner started the better.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 4:28 pm

I’m discovering the same thing more and more as I get more experienced (aka older) in life.

Sarah Russell March 3, 2011 at 6:32 am

Corbett – Thanks for this. You’ve (yet again) managed to put a finger on something that’s been bugging me, but that I haven’t been able to completely verbalize.

I’m doing some fun stuff in my life right now. And I feel like I might be on the cusp of doing something great. But am I fucking awesome? No, not yet – but I’m glad to have the reminder and the goal to work towards.

Tweeting this right now :)

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:33 pm

Awesome, Sarah, hope this is the jolt you needed. Best of luck!

Salvatore Greco March 3, 2011 at 6:33 am

Don’t those moments just feel so F*CKING AWESOME! It always comes after you have been in a bit of a funk. I struggle with this feeling frequently on my site….The “what is my mission here,” or “how am I helping people, what is in it for them.”

I have definitely realized the importance of letting my true, “awesome” personality shine through as much as possible. When people see post’s like this they can absolutely appreciate the realism.

Awesome Epic Shit Post, Thanks!

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:34 pm

I think most bloggers have those times when they question themselves, and that’s a good thing when it’s constructive.

wilson March 3, 2011 at 7:13 am

so i’ve decided to unsubscribe to this guy named corbett barr but only to re-subscribe to the totally fucking awesome corbett barr that wrote this post. hahaha, hope you enjoyed that for a moment.

Dude ever since the re-branding from freepursuits to corbett barr I am always on the lookout to what you’re going to say next, I really like learning from leaders like you. It’s crazy what that small change did, because before I just say your site as “oh his just another lifestyle design blogger” now I connect with the way you talk/write, however you wan to see it. I’m having a blast here man, keep doing it.

To be honest with you being insanely useful will help us immensely and I hope that goal does not change, so many bloggers (myself included) will make promises to our readers and then forget about it.

Great to be part of this community. BTW I like the new tagline, I’m fighting to find the one that really connects me with me and what the blog is about too.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:36 pm

The other Corbett is sorry to lose you, but the new one is stoked to have you aboard ;)

Thanks for the feedback, glad to hear it!

Adam King March 3, 2011 at 7:47 am

That is exactly why I started my personal site too. As much as I love working with people in my other profession and helping them make it, I despairingly needed a place to be my whole self and have others connect to me there as the complete version of Adam (not just Adam the woodworker, or Adam the artist).

So I cheer you on as you are certainly not alone in seeking to simply exist and to find the permission to do so openly.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:38 pm

Honestly, I get bored if my work is all about work and not about having fun too. It’s easier to have fun in person than it is online, so that’s part of the struggle I think.

Dan March 3, 2011 at 7:58 am

word.

Jeanie March 3, 2011 at 8:35 am

As a storytelling, Twilight walker said…

“I am jealous of your frank physicality, your matter of fact, direct Divinity, your willingness to dive deep into sensuality with no regard for self preservation. You stir me in deep ways, mysterious stranger, and make me realize my own relationship with myself is incomplete.” After I wrote…what I needed to write.

Wow. So, I’m awesome at speaking to desires for freedom & true connection. Do I write my lover porn for the masses, or do a letter.ly so my family, former clients, and professional colleagues don’t think I’m a Nomadic backpacking whore? (I’m not, it takes a certain kind of fringe element for me to even speak for long to someone)

Raw, open authenticity Is powerful and Will be the saving grace of mankind. Retaining respect and trust is a tough balance, because I See so clearly the bullshit excuses and how to get around them.

Give us YOU, raw, Corbett. Make us know you as an exquisitely imperfect being, and shape the way for other strugglers.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:43 pm

Thanks Jeanie! You bring up some good points about how much to share with people, especially when you have such divergent interests. Good luck finding the balance that works for you.

James Schipper March 3, 2011 at 8:38 am

I think you already know I’m still here, but I’ll add a comment to add to the “Fuck yeah!” comments that will pile up below :-)

You have been tremendously helpful to me, both through your sites, your consulting call, and our other conversations.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:44 pm

Sweet, I’ll mark one in the “insanely useful” column I’m tallying. Thanks James, always glad to help.

Season March 3, 2011 at 8:41 am

This REALLY hit home to me today. I have been in a “funk” over this issue myself for a few weeks. Long story short, I focus on moms transitioning into business ownership but sometimes I feel like people look at my focus and immediately think “soccer mom, 2.5 kids, picket fence and cupcakes.” When really I’m anything but that. I have tattoos, I’m a little edgy (LOL) and I drop the “F” bomb sometimes (not in front of my kids) but I haven’t figured out how to incorporate that into what I do. After reading this, I am definitely going to revamp my website. Thanks :)

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:45 pm

If you don’t know Naomi Dunford from IttyBiz, you have to check her out (http://ittybiz.com/). It sounds right up your alley.

Nate March 3, 2011 at 10:09 am

Thanks, Corbett. I am brand new to the scene and trying to determine the direction of my own blog. It’s encouraging to read about your “existential crisis”. I’ve been reading your blog for months and, in planning my own future as a location-independent, self-supporting blogger, I hold you up as the standard to shoot for. Your post today caused me to relax a little. I have been beating myself up for a while to come up with that perfect mission statement, the right elevator pitch for my blog. It hasn’t been working too well. Your post caused me to realize that even my heroes have these questions…but they push through and become successful anyway. Your post gave me the confidence to push through – to be as awesome as I can be RIGHT NOW.

Thanks again, Corbett. You are fucking awesome!

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:46 pm

Awesome, Nate! You said it right, you have to be as awesome as you can be NOW, without beating yourself up too much for not already being what you want to be in the future. I hope this leads to a breakthrough for you. Definitely let me know how it goes.

Cordelia March 3, 2011 at 10:14 am

Hell to the Yeah!

I have to say that I already thought you were pretty awesome, so I can’t wait to see what happens when the full awesomeness is unleashed!

I’ve also been struggling lately with what I want my blog to be. I can SAY I’ve always tried to make it awesome and useful and “me,” but the truth is, I’ve kept myself constrained. I wanted to sound more professional and established, I wanted to attract the largest audience, I wanted to compete with the big boys. I’m realizing lately that all of those goals are crap, and there are a million and one bloggers out there all trying the same thing. I don’t need a business plan or an SEO strategy; I need some honesty. The only thing I really have to offer anyone is myself, raw & full tilt.

Knowing that you’ve struggled behind the scenes yourself is an enormous encouragement, and your decision to be more authentically “you” is a kick in the pants for me as well. So excited to see what the “new” Corbett has to offer!

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:53 pm

How did the “big reveal” change how you feel Cordelia? I can imagine it’s been much easier to write in a “raw and full tilt” way since you came out from under your hidden identity.

Andy Fogarty March 3, 2011 at 11:51 am

Man, I’ve been going through the exact same thing for the past month or so, and just finally reached the “slap in the face” moment I needed.

Watching you since the beginning of the year has been a huge inspiration and probably had a lot to do with my funk and realisation.

That’s about it. Just wanted to say thanks and that you’re definitely on the right path to be fucking awesome.

Yep.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:54 pm

Shit, I hope I wasn’t responsible for your funk, but I’m happy to be part of the realization part. Good luck with the reconciliation!

Martina Iring March 3, 2011 at 11:58 am

Thanks for sharing that post Corbett! I really enjoyed it. What resonated most with me was Julien’s point that we each have our own definition of awesome. So instead of looking outside at what others are doing, just look inside and figure out what is awesome to YOU. Because every single one of us is awesome, we just have to ditch the fear, tell our “rational” minds to f*** off (I’m joining you here, cause I swear in real life too god dammit :) ) and do what feels right for us. To the awesomeness brigade!

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:55 pm

That was one of my favorite parts of Julien’s post as well. It’s not about holding yourself to some other outside “awesome” standard, it’s about being as awesome as you want to be, in the way you want it.

Shane March 3, 2011 at 12:31 pm

Corbett. Ok. If Julien’s post backhanded you then this post just punched me in the face. It was brilliant…and I love the fact that you did exactly what you said…which is to be real.

There is a line from Baker’s post which totally has stuck in my brain which is “pull the goddamn trigger”

I emailed him and told him that was 100% awesome

But what astounds me the most with your realization is the sad fact that we are socially trained to believe we cannot be our true selves and that we have to fit a mold or persona to be successful and productive…and as you are seeing, that’s all a big lie.

It’s hard though to become your true self because you have to make choices…and most people choose complacency over action….

Thanks for the awesome post it helped in more ways than one….

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:58 pm

You’re right about the social conditioning, Shane. I think it’s also compounded online because you can’t see the people you’re talking to and watch their reactions and adapt your message quickly to reveal your true self.

WeeMike March 3, 2011 at 1:05 pm

I’ve only been reading your blog for a few months Corbett, but every freaking post I’ve read has been amazing.

You constantly make me rethink things I’m doing with my life, you’ve made me approach things with a “who fucking cares what others think just go do it” attitude, and I thank you for that.

Looking forward to reading more in the future on your quest to be f*cking awesome! (^_^)

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:59 pm

It feels great to finally say “who f’ing cares” once in a while. I think you can make a lot of progress that way that you wouldn’t otherwise if you constantly worry what everyone else thinks. Let me know how the new approach works out!

JB March 3, 2011 at 1:19 pm

I have subscribed to your blog for a while now. And I will be honest, most of the time I skim through it. However, I read every single word of this post. I hope to see a lot more posts like this.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:00 pm

Cool, glad this one hit home. Thanks for letting me know.

John Muldoon March 3, 2011 at 2:05 pm

Hell yes!

Corbett, this is so timely. ( I know you get that a lot–it’s because you’re real when you write and you’ve attracted an audience that shares your views.)

I have been struggling for months to figure out what I wanted to write about on my blog. Part of my problem is a problem of attention. I’m busy. Baring my soul isn’t at the top of my list of priorities (but it’s not at the bottom either).

The other part of my problem is that I’m comfortable. I’m happy. I run a successful company. I don’t “need” to add anything else into my life to be happy. I say that’s a problem, but I’m not exactly sad about it.

So, why write anything? Why do anything? My number one goal in life is to be helpful. I know that sounds corny or even contrived, but I really mean it. Just last night I was talking to my business partner about what the hell we’re doing. One of those self-examinations that is only good if it’s a little bit painful. I went deep.

I’m good at my job (I won’t even say what it is) but it’s not a “true” passion of mine–though I do love it more than anything else I could do for work. My passions are across the board. I’m a travel junkie, a mountain climber, I like writing. I have an awesome fucking life.

Anyway, I realized that I also love pushing people (in a good way). I know I’m good at it. Part of my job is being a strategic advisor to awesome entrepreneurs. A big part of that is pushing people. Not just regular people, but awesome people, driven people, brilliant people. Pushing them isn’t always easy, but I do love it.

So, that’s what I’m going to write about. I’m going to combine my love of helping/pushing with my love of awesomeness. I’m going to help people have more awesome days.

This is more diary-entry than blog comment, but fuck it. There aren’t any real rules here. Even if there were rules here, part of “being awesome” is ignoring the rules when they hold you back.

Cheers man.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:06 pm

John, thanks for the fantastic comment and thoughts. I love it when someone adds real value to a conversation like this with a personal example like yours. It takes guts to share so much, and I really appreciate it.

It sounds like I’ll be the perfect candidate to read your blog because I too want to have more awesome days. Please let us all know when it comes out.

Jophiel March 3, 2011 at 4:38 pm

Woo-HOOO! FWIW, the most fun I ever had at an exit interview started by asking my boss:

“How did you become such a badass?”

If you find someone who you think can take the question, it’s well worth asking how they did it :) .

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:07 pm

I’m guessing that’s a great question in some circumstances and an odd one in others.

Papa GZ March 3, 2011 at 6:13 pm

Awesome post & a good start on the road to Charlie Sheen caliber EPIC shit! I’m also on the same pursuit! Being a new reader here, I will fill in the spot of anybody who jumps ship (although I doubt anyone will).

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:08 pm

Charlie Sheen calibre? How’d you get that exactly? I didn’t exactly talk about a love for drugs or prostitutes.

Graham Phoenix | Male eXperience March 3, 2011 at 6:42 pm

Corbett

You keep nailing it and challenging us… well me… no, all of us!

I have written my comment as a post…

It’s at ‘Oh My God! Do I Really Have To Be Awesome!’.

You really have started something.

Thank you

Graham

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:13 pm

Awesome, Graham. I just left a comment over there.

Jesse Land March 3, 2011 at 6:49 pm

Good post Corbett, I look forward to reading more authentic shit from you moving forward! You don’t want to die knowing you were anything less than everything you could be, that’s for sure. What a shitty feeling that would be. (I almost bit it, post brain surgery, when I was 19, so I’ve had a little taste of that feeling)

I think being fucking awesome is a good portion of the equation, and being connected is the rest of it.

You also reminded me how nice it is not to have to deal with all that existential shit anymore. Thanks for that. ;)

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:15 pm

Wow, I can’t imagine how an experience like you had at 19 might change your perspective.

What did you mean by “being connected” as the rest of the equation? How is that exactly?

Seth March 3, 2011 at 8:08 pm

Great post, Corbett. I, too, am struggling with competing interests, the question of me as brand, etc. And I think that perhaps the greatest way to be fucking awesome is focus on one specific thing you said: being insanely useful. The others are good, but I like that one the best. I’m going to use it as a guide in figuring out some of my own existential shit and for that, I thank you.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:16 pm

Cheers Seth, best of luck and let me know where it takes you.

Joshua | The Minimalists March 3, 2011 at 8:12 pm

Corbett,

Just be careful. “Fuck” works very well for Julien. He is one of only a handful of bloggers that I follow seriously (which is a list of about seven people at this point).

You are another one of those people who I follow closely.

I really, really like Julien’s stuff (and I’m not just saying that because I have a guest post scheduled on his site this month). Cursing is part of Julien’s persona, and he uses his words in a powerful way. He is a Mozart of “fucking,” as it were.

That said, you already were awesome and authentic. Your videos are great and you make some great points in them, points that are believable and inspiring and, most of all, intellectual.

The problem that many people run into when using “fuck,” “shit,” and other generic curse words, is that they come off as gratuitous and unnecessary and they end up looking like filler, filler that you are much better than.

Some of your words about transparency and perceived status were profound and they touched my nerve endings in a special way without cursing.

That said, have at it if it feels real for you. I’m with you either way.

Take care,

Joshua Millburn
http://theminimalists.com

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:19 pm

Hey man, I didn’t say that being “fucking” awesome for me meant I was going to curse all the time. But since Julien’s post inspired me so much, I felt the only way to respond authentically was to share exactly how I felt about it. I agree he and a few others are masters of using colorful language in a way that I probably don’t want to be. But it would be inauthentic not to be my real self, curse words and all, when they make sense in the context.

Pavel March 3, 2011 at 10:05 pm

What a great post, Corbet. I think you have to be at least half-way to being F—ing awesome just to realize that being F—ing awesome is what life all about.

You’re one of the 4 people on the net that inspired me to get out of the rat race and start creating something of value in this world.

Good luck.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:20 pm

Thanks man, I’m always happy to hear when someone takes action to live the life he knows he should be living. I hope you achieve all you want and more.

Andrew March 3, 2011 at 11:13 pm

Corbett, This site makes more and more sense with every step you make!

Chris C. Ducker March 4, 2011 at 4:29 am

Great post, Corbett.

Lovin’ it.

I look forward to seeing your awesomeness unfold……..!!!

C

Benny March 4, 2011 at 6:38 am

Businesses always evolved over time. It’s natural.

That post by Julien is mind blowing stuff. Thanks for sharing.

Angela Giese March 4, 2011 at 9:09 am

You ARE awesome! I totally needed to read this post. Thank you so much for writing it. There was something simple and obvious I knew I was missing, and it was to live to be awesome to me, my family, my blogging community, and my clients. I can’t believe I didn’t realize it before. I’m off to go rethink my strategies. Thanks again!

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 6:21 pm

Fantastic! Get out there and kick some ass Angela.

Vic Dorfman March 4, 2011 at 6:29 pm

Corbett,

Honestly…blogging is crying for more authenticity.

And not “authenticity”, liked the canned fruit version everyone tweets about, but authenticity, if you know what I mean?

Like…more cursing, sex, drugs and debauchery WHILE providing value, of course! ;-)

That stuff is HUMAN and makes a blog not simply useful, but fun.

Anywho, still in Mexico? I’m up to $200/mo thanks in part to your course and lots of ridiculously tedious work (e.g. linkbuilding …ack!) :-)

Buenas Ondas!
Vic

TimB March 6, 2011 at 2:37 pm

Hey Corbett,

Interesting timing on this post. It’s been about a year or so since I started investigating Lifestyle Design and Online Business and you were one of the first bloggers I stumbled across. Since then I’ve subscribed to countless mailing lists and RSS feeds and it was only a few days ago that I thought, “WTF am I getting from this contstant onslaught of mostly bullshit email and blogposts?”

So I scaled right back down again and unsubscribed from almost all of the lists I was on. As it happened, the guys I chose to stay with were pretty much made up of the first few I tried back in the day. The reason for that? Authenticity. Some writers have a real voice and knack for avoiding the bullshit. You’re one of them!

Keep it up mate – you’re inspirational…
Tim

Jose Zelada March 9, 2011 at 8:07 am

You have been tweeted! In some places you would be called an idealist and a utopian!
I would like to follow that ideal lifestyle and in a way I am doing it. I recently moved over from Spain (Madrid) to London (england) and I am looking to make a living on my own as a freelancer, with my own rules and times, with my own interests and wants… I hope to be good towards awesome too!!
We’ll see!

SailorGirl March 9, 2011 at 9:16 am

I’m re-subscribing after this post… the whole changeover thing scared me off… but this was such an awesome post I think you’re worth subscribing to again! :) Thanks for keeping it real & sharing with the world…

Fazal Mayar March 9, 2011 at 5:46 pm

Being honest and trying to help people online is the best way to go. There are some kids, stay at home moms that are trying to make money online and wouldn’t you feel great if you helped them achieve succes? I know I would, good post Corbett.

Amy Scott March 10, 2011 at 11:31 am

AWESOME, Corbett! Thanks for being honest, thanks for putting yourself out there and admitting your struggle and your new plan to be f*ing awesome, and thanks for calling my attention to Julien’s post (and blog–you’re right, he’s definitely worth reading!). You guys have given me a kick in the ass. It’s high time I had my own existential crisis and figured out what “being awesome” looks in my life, in my business, in my online presence, etc.

Brandon Hansen March 11, 2011 at 2:49 pm

i think everyone feels the sense of awesomeness from time to time. With that, comes the feeling of complete blah, mediocrity and even utter waste. It happens to everyone.

The trick in it all is realizing that we all go through it and how can we minimize the blah, and maximize the awesome.

Brandon

Andrew Jasper March 14, 2011 at 2:25 pm

Thanks for this. You can tell you were on top of the world while writing it. Inspiring stuff :)

Also, thanks for that link to http://inoveryourhead.net
Great post and that shark is my new idol…

Keep the awesome coming. Fuck yeah,
Andrew

Andrew Jasper March 14, 2011 at 2:25 pm

Thanks for this. You can tell you were on top of the world while writing it. Inspiring stuff :)

Also, thanks for that link to http://inoveryourhead.net
Great post and that shark is my new idol…

Keep the awesome coming. Fuck yeah,
Andrew

Stephenie Zamora March 15, 2011 at 6:56 pm

I realize I’m late to the party, but I loved this post. I struggled with what I was blogging about and the work that I was doing for a good while… I’m happy to say that when I took the time to think about who I really am and what I’m really passionate about, I made some amazing things happen! I’m excited to see YOU show up in future posts! Those are awesome questions to ask yourself! xo

anthonynlee March 17, 2011 at 3:07 pm

wow….just wow.
so, reading this, i realized that we are on the same path…but i didn’t know i was on that path.
now, i do…and i am not sure what to do about it.
in the beginning, i modeled my 2 blogs after subjects i was passionate about that i could attempt to monetize…they are both extensions of me, but not me in full.
lately i have been wishing i just had me, and all my nearly awesome glory, in one place.
but how do you monetize that? when people want to pay you for how to stuff, and all i want to do is crack inappropriate dating jokes (like..best pick up line ever -excuse me miss, does this napkin smell like chloroform to you?)
i also am like 85% sure that i am going to cut the mohawk back into my head.
screw “looking professional”.
thanks bro.

Stephen Smith March 19, 2011 at 5:28 am

Great post Corbett, I have been reading you for a while, starting when I (thought) I wanted a “lifestyle business” where I could travel and write about it and so on. I still do (and I just left a Comment at Charlie’s place about it), but I have come to the realization that I already have a lifestyle business. That business is the restaurant business and that lifestyle is the restaurant lifestyle.

I was pissed yesterday because my Asst Mgr called in sick on my day off and I had to go in for 4 hours and get some stuff done. I bitched and moaned to my Lovely Bride about it all afternoon and into the evening. Then this morning she said to me, “Yeah, you don’t love the restaurant business, you watched “Waiting” last night.”

I realize now that I have been frustrated for a long time because the place I am working is not at the caliber of most of the places where I gained my experience. It could be, and the owners seem to be finally coming around and helping me to put the resources in place to do so. So it’s time to double down and do the heavy lifting.

Thanks for the inspiration!

Salvatore Greco April 1, 2011 at 8:08 am

It was almost a month ago when I first commented to this post. Now I can see how much it had an impact on me. I just finished a project I was working on, and released my “Surfer Lifestyle Quest to F*ucking Awesomeness” email series…

Thanks for the inspiration, and everything else you do…

Michael March 20, 2012 at 11:06 am

I can feel your buzzing through this post. I am with you man. BE FUCKING AWESOME! You are well on your way, in my humble opinion.

Corbett March 20, 2012 at 5:40 pm

Thanks Michael :)

Michele Bergh August 10, 2012 at 10:52 pm

In the process of rebranding as I prepare to launch a new super cool part of my business, this post was really helpful and I think you are fucking awesome!

Joe February 22, 2013 at 9:52 pm

I wonder if it is really a “quest” though. I think you just have to be awesome (or not). You don’t try to be. Like Yoda said, “Try there is not. Only do.”

I mean, I suppose you can decide to be awesome. But it isn’t really deciding to be awesome, it is deciding to be true, genuine, nice, creative, focused, and whatever other intangibles comprise awesome.

I don’t think it is conscious though. Once you are conscious of trying to be awesome, it becomes an elusive goal. Then, perhaps, it is a quest. But a futile one.

Corbett March 4, 2011 at 5:53 pm

Oh, and I suppose I should call you Kelly now ;)

Jesse Land March 6, 2011 at 7:02 pm

Being connected to something a little beyond yourself, basically.

For example, in your travels I’m sure you’ve met people that just seem a little more grounded than everyone else. They smile often, trouble doesn’t seem to find them as much, and they generally have some sort of gravity to them, some kind of a draw. The kind of people who just seem to truly have shit figured out.

These people usually forces of nature. They’re 100% authentic, but they often have something beyond that.

I tend to pick the brains of people like that and have found that they all have some sort of “connection” to something beyond than themselves.

Sometimes they meditate every day, sometimes they’re religious, and sometimes they just have a really strong family connection. But whatever it is it sure seems to breed happiness, a true sense of well-being, and honest contentment.

Sorry if that’s a little off topic.

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